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engagement

Networking for people who’d rather be home in sweatpants

By Leanne Calderwood

Introverts and thoughtful professionals make great meeting planners. They are strategic, deep thinkers and detail-obsessives who make things happen behind the scenes. But in an industry powered by relationships, connections matter. So, even if networking feels like climbing Mount Everest in flip-flops, we all still have to do it

For introverts, networking isn’t about being shy, antisocial or allergic to people. We simply prefer to recharge after a long day of sessions by spending time alone. Too much socializing drains our batteries quickly, and often the surface-level chit chat has us wanting to crawl out of our skin. We much prefer deep conversation and small group interactions if given the choice.

The good news? You can network in a way that feels less painful and more you.

FLIP THE SCRIPT

Rejoice. You don’t have to be the life of the party. Great networking isn’t about talking at people. It’s about genuine connection.

Instead of forcing yourself into "extrovert mode," lean into your strengths. Introverts are naturally great listeners. They ask meaningful questions. They actually hear what the other person is saying instead of just waiting for their turn to talk. Use that to your advantage.

At your next event, set a small, doable goal—talk to three people, ask about their work and let them do most of the talking. That’s it. No need to work the whole room.

PLAY THE LONG GAME

Extroverts may thrive on quick, high-energy conversations, but introverts excel at building deeper, more meaningful relationships. You don’t need to meet everyone.

Instead of collecting a stack of business cards that’ll sit in your desk drawer forever, focus on quality over quantity. Follow up with a LinkedIn message. Offer to grab coffee one-on-one. Show up consistently (even if it’s just once a quarter) so people start to recognize you.

TAKE BREAKS

Networking events are a lot. The noise, the small talk, the unspoken pressure to be "on." If you feel overwhelmed, give yourself a breather. Step outside, find a quiet corner or pretend you have an urgent text (hey, no judgment).

Introverts thrive when they can recharge. It’s not about avoiding people—it’s about managing your energy so you don’t hit a social wall at 7:30 p.m.

STRATEGIC SHOWING UP

Not all networking events are created equal. You don’t have to go to every happy hour, rooftop party or conference mixer.

Instead, pick the events that play to your strengths. More intimate gatherings? Perfect. Panel discussions where you can ask thoughtful questions? Great. Volunteering behind the scenes so people come to you? Even better.

The goal isn’t to force yourself into spaces that drain you—it’s to find opportunities where you can shine.

WARM UP WITH SOCIAL MEDIA

Hate in-person networking? Meet your new best friend: social media!

LinkedIn, Instagram and industry Facebook groups let you build relationships without stepping foot into a crowded ballroom. Share insights, comment on people’s posts, celebrate their wins and—when the time is right—slide into their DMs with a friendly message.

That way, when you do meet in person, it’s not cold networking, it’s just continuing a conversation.

HAVE A GO-TO ICEBREAKER (THAT DOESN’T SUCK)

Small talk is the worst. No one actually wants to discuss the weather or when you arrived at the conference city or how "crazy busy" everything is. But you can still break the ice in a way that doesn’t make you cringe. Some easy openers:

  • "What’s been the best part of your week so far?"
  • "What’s a project you’re excited about right now?"
  • "Did you have time to enjoy the city before the show?"

Having a few go-to questions in your back pocket takes the pressure off and makes conversations flow more naturally.

REMIND YOURSELF, IT GETS EASIER

Look, no amount of tips or tricks will completely erase the awkwardness of networking. Sometimes it’s uncomfortable. Sometimes you’ll say something weird and overanalyze it for three days. That’s just part of the deal.

But the more you put yourself out there—even in small, manageable ways—the easier it gets. And the best part? You don’t have to be the loudest, most outgoing person in the room to make an impact.You just have to show up, be yourself and connect in a way that feels right for you.

Now go forth and network (or at least consider showing up). You’ve got this.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Leanne Calderwood
Leanne Calderwood, CMP, is a raging introvert and tea enthusiast who helps thoughtful professionals create impact, not noise. As one of Canada’s top meeting industry and LinkedIn voices, she empowers clients to own their brand and attract opportunities while staying true to their strengths. She enjoys introverting at her home in Kelowna with her family and her dog Farls Barkley.

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