The Slippery Slope from Hero to Villain: When Enthusiastic becomes Chaotic - Hero Habit #5: BE HERE

You know that person in the office who brightens up the room when they walk in? They have a way of getting others to smile and laugh even when there is tension in the air? They lighten up the mood just by their presence. They know when to crack a joke and when to poke fun of themselves long enough to make the tough times more tolerable?

If you don’t know anyone like that, then you might be that person. These people love to be in the spotlight, they enjoy the attention and don’t mind if people laugh along the way. Don’t get me wrong, they have their moments and can sometimes share too much information, you know who I’m talking about. They are social creatures who love to be with others because that’s where they get their energy.

These heroes are outgoing and generalizing. They love to have fun! They’re proactive and have a big picture perspective. They are personal communicators who typically start conversations with small talk before getting down to business. They are the cheerleaders for the team and prefer to talk through their ideas.

They are enthusiastic and optimistic, but when they succumb to stress, pressure, or just overextend their strengths, they shift from being the hero, ‘Recognition Woman’ & ‘Recognition Man’, and transform into the evil villain ‘Energy Vampira’ or ‘Energy Vampire’. They become a sarcastic generalizer who craves recognition and blatantly disregards details. The secret is that this villain ultimately wants to be ADMIRED by others and fears a lack of prestige.

It’s funny how the hero and the villain both share the same objective, but they each go about achieving it quite differently. To understand them, you need to appreciate their personal mantra, their Hero Habit: “BE HERE”. Because while hero is “HERE” for others, the villain is “HERE” for themself. The villain is outspoken, sarcastic and makes biting remarks to vent and avoid facing the core issue.

They both love to be admired by others and dislike feeling left out. They are frustrated with too many details or when they begin to feel restricted.

Ready for a deep dive into what makes them tick? Here’s the quick summary:

Recognition Woman/Man is Outgoing and Generalizing

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Pet Peeves: Perfectionists and Being Left Out
Worst Environment: Isolation, Rejection and Bureaucracy

Here are my parting thoughts:

Our parents and teachers taught us The Golden Rule when we were growing up.

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you…”

It makes sense, when they were trying to help us stop from being self-centered brats, but by treating others like ourselves, we could be triggering their inner villain. What’s better that Gold? Platinum, that’s right…

That’s why The Platinum Rule has been created to help us take our awareness to the next level and begin to cater our words, actions, and behaviors to most resonate with our partner, peers and clients.

“Do unto others as they would have done unto them!”

Keep practicing these skills until our next episode where I’ll reveal the innermost wants, fears and desires of the next hero. Until then… Keep Being the Hero!!!

Ready to BE THE HERO? For more information on Hero Habits, please visitwww.MichaelHahnSpeaker.com or see you next edition where I’ll highlight another Hero Habit #5:  BE HERE.